The king is always very still

When we want to get our point across, we often rush, as if we are afraid that we would get interrupted. There is no need for it. Slow down. Don’t pace the room, wave your hands about or talk like a machine gun. Pause before and after you make an important statement. Let the other person reflect on what you have said. Give your words the weight they deserve.

As the American social psychologist Amy Cuddy says in her book „Presence”: „When we feel powerful, we speak more slowly and take more time. We don’t rush. We’re not afraid to pause. We feel entitled to the time we’re using”.

Embrace stillness. Have you noticed how actors play kings? The king is always very still. Everyone moves around him. The king moves with purpose, embraces the pause and makes every word count. This is how you project power, confidence, and authority.

You need to teach people how to treat you. When you walk into a room with confidence, showing up in your calm, unhurried and controlled body language, you tell people that they should treat you with respect. If you scuttle in like a mouse, you show people that you do not matter, that they do not need to take you seriously. If we don’t treat ourselves seriously, nobody else will.

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