Power body language needs to be used like chilli, with caution, and always balanced with warmth. Overblown alpha moves will intimidate and alienate people you interact with. Avoid:
- Towering over people. When the other person sits, don’t stand over their hand, get to their level, sit down. You will get along better.
- Looking down your nose/ over your glasses at people. It’s a sign of superiority and nobody likes that.
- Taking extremely expansive positions: leaning back with your hands interlaced behind your head, standing with your arms akimbo, sitting in the figure four position.
- Getting into people’s personal space.
- Staring people down
To add warmth and build rapport with others, use these body language cues:
- Tilt your head when listening. A head tilt is a sign of interest, curiosity and involvement.
- Smile. A smile tells those around you that you are friendly, open and approachable.
- Look at people when they speak to show that you are interested in what they have to say.
- Use open hand gestures to signify trust and openness.