My interest in body language began years ago, when I was going back to work after a maternity leave. Back then, I worked as a legal translator and interpreter, helping judges, solicitors and barristers to communicate with their clients. It was a scary, adrenaline-heavy, male-dominated environment. And, after a long time spent at home, my confidence was shot. Which was plain to see from the way I presented myself. My whole body was screaming insecurity, stress and anxiety. I would avoid eye contact, laugh nervously, nod my head in agreement the whole time.
It took me some time to realise that my body language was sabotaging my message. Once I figured that out, I dove into the latest research in psychology to discover how to fix my underwhelming body language cues, such as stance, gestures, and eye contact, to look – and feel – more confident.
I knew it all before: I have background in social psychology too. But I never thought to apply the findings of the latest studies. You see, research shows there is a two-way connection between our mind and our body. The way you feel affects your body language. When you are insecure, you look down, slump, touch your neck and face nervously. But also the reverse is true. Your gestures, your movement, the way you carry yourself affect our emotions by sending messages back to your brain. Our brain shapes our body language. But our body language also shapes our brain.
Armed with these findings, I got to work on creating more confident body language. I would make myself stand tall, with my back straight and my shoulders rolled back, I would learn how to hold a steady eye contact, I would avoid the excessive nodding and laughing. It was hard work. Very awkward too. But little by little, I managed to create more confident body language habits. And you know what? People started treating me like I was this confident, composed and assertive person. And then, one day, emboldened by their feedback, I thought: You know what? I think I am!
That’s why I decided to help people who, like me years ago, struggled to project confidence. In my body language workshops I teach people how to be more aware of their body language and its impacts on the way others see them. I then show them how to master their body language to both look and feel more confident. That’s how Walk the Talk was created.
Does it sound like you?
You are not alone. If you’re like most of my clients, you are committed to succeeding at work and growing as a person. You strive to get better and reach your potential. But something keeps holding you back. Low confidence. Self doubt. Negative thoughts.
This is where I come in. I run workshops on various aspects of body language.